March 4, 2016
What other people say about you is none of your business.
Like flossing and eating good, that is better said than done.
The Internet is a tool that we all use in this society, and it can either be good or bad. One day we are building someone up and the next we’re burning them down.; not realizing that everyday we are given this abundance of power. This ability to come into someone’s life through their phone or computer, to interrupt their day with our opinions, points of view and judgments.
When this happens, when someone arrives, unbidden, with a happy inbox and timeline, with feedback not about the things you like, but about you, it’s shocking and unnerving that people can come to their conclusions about you and your life, without having the simplest knowledge about you, and without knowing you personally.
Now, this isn’t something that just happens when people think they know everything that you’re going through even though, hi it’s the Internet, not like a complete download of your emotions and every single thought you have. Majority of the time, this has happened to you or you’ve done this to someone else, without realizing it; to the point where you end up thinking ”Okay, time to take a break from the Internet!”
Humans have a tendency to remember these little whispers as louder voices than any of the praise that’s been shouted in our face, even though we shouldn’t.
You know you shouldn’t, but you can’t help it because we are people and we do things that we can’t even put into words. For instance, we go to Donald Trump rallies or end up falling for those prize giveaways in Facebook comments. We’re human, and humans are creatures filled to the brim with insecurities.
At the end of the day, there’s nothing you can do with these people, even if you think you can be somewhat reasonable with the unreasonable. It’s not your job to defend yourself or correct other people.
It’s not about you. What other people say is not about you. What other people do is not about you, even if you are the topic.
“Why wouldn’t it be about me?” When we all live in a digital solar system that we’ve constructed to revolve around ourselves, how can it possibly not be about us when we are the topic of someone else’s negative fixation? Look at it from another person’s perspective.
When we were young, we were taught think before we speak, but now we need to learn think before we type. We need to learn it and re-learn it every time we pick up our electronics, and remember to ask these questions before we push ourselves into someone else’s electronic life:
- Is this kind?
- Is it true?
- Is it necessary?
We all tend to forget these things when we are on social media, and that is okay maybe once or twice, but try looking at it from another person’s perspective, and remember IT’S NOT ABOUT YOU.